About Intimacy

I’ve been with my husband for almost 13 years and the past year or two we have been fighting a lot almostly over sex. I want to be intimate by talking and just being there for one another and all that plus I haven’t been in the mood to have sex and I think it mainly has to do with feeling pressured into it or just always him touching me in my private spots and feeling more like a sex toys than a partner but I can’t get him to see how he is making me feel I don’t want a marriage to be all about sex I need help i don’t know what to do